Calling without messaging first
Informal Depends on context
What it really means
Among younger British people especially, a phone call out of nowhere can feel intrusive — many prefer a text first: "Free for a quick call?" Unannounced calls are fine for close family, emergencies, and older people who simply prefer phoning. For everyone else, message first and let them choose the moment.
Chinese explanation
尤其在英国年轻人中，毫无预告的电话会让人觉得被打扰——很多人希望你先发条消息："方便通个电话吗？"关系亲近的家人、紧急情况、以及本来就习惯打电话的长辈除外。对其他人，先发消息，让对方选择合适的时间。
Example conversation
A: Why didn't you pick up? I rang you three times.
B: Sorry — unknown midday calls stress me out. Text me first next time and I'll answer.
A：你怎么不接电话？我打了三次。
B：抱歉——大中午突然来电话让我紧张。下次先发个消息，我肯定接。
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