x / xx (at the end of a message)

Informal Polite

What it really means

The letter "x" at the end of a text means a kiss, but between friends it is just friendliness, like a smiley — not romance. More x's = warmer tone. British people (often women) use it with friends and family; leaving it out with a close friend can even seem cold. Do not use it in professional emails.

Chinese explanation
短信结尾的 x 代表"亲吻",但朋友之间只是表示友好,类似表情符号,并非浪漫含义。x 越多语气越亲热。英国人(女性居多)常对朋友家人使用;和熟人聊天不加反而可能显得冷淡。职场邮件里千万别用。

Context, tips & common mistakes

The 'x' at the end of a message is a written kiss, and it runs on unspoken rules. Friends exchange them routinely (one x casual, xx warmer, xxx intimate or theatrical); dropping the x someone normally sends you reads as coldness or a hint that something is wrong; and adding one to a professional email is a small but memorable misstep — colleagues who are also friends may use them, but never upwards to a boss or a client until they do first.

Men use them less on average, though this varies wildly by region, age and friendship group. The safe algorithm: mirror what the other person sends. If they sign 'see you tomorrow x', you may return the x; if they never send one, do not open the bidding.

Example conversation

A: Thanks for today, was so fun! xx B: Loved it! Same again next week? x
A:今天谢谢你,玩得超开心!xx B:我也超喜欢!下周再来一次?x

What you could say back

“Had a great time! x”

Related phrases

Official sources

Rules and amounts change — confirm important details with the official source.
All British Slang
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