Would you mind…?

Neutral Polite

What it really means

The standard polite request form: "Would you mind opening the window?" Note the confusing answer: "No, not at all" means YES, I will do it. Saying "yes" would literally mean you DO mind and refuse.

Chinese explanation
标准的礼貌请求句式:"你介意开下窗吗?"注意回答容易搞反:说 No, not at all(不介意)才是答应;说 yes 字面上是"我介意",等于拒绝。

Context, tips & common mistakes

The polarity trap in the answer catches learners for years: because the question literally asks "would it bother you?", the helpful answer is negative — "no, not at all", "of course not" — and a cheerful "yes!" technically means refusal. In practice Britons soften genuine refusals into full sentences ("actually, I'd rather you didn't — sorry"), so a bare "yes" or "no" is rarely heard; copy that habit and you cannot go wrong. Watch the two related forms: "do you mind if I…?" asks permission for yourself (answer "go ahead"), while "would you mind doing…?" asks the other person to act. The past form "would you have minded" is rare; but "if you wouldn't mind" tacked on the end of an instruction ("close the door on your way out, if you wouldn't mind") is a polite order, not a question. Tone matters too: an icy, over-enunciated "would you MIND?" — on a train, about your phone volume — is a complaint, and the right response is an apology, not "not at all".

Example conversation

A: Would you mind keeping an eye on my laptop for a minute? B: Not at all — go ahead.
A:你介意帮我看一下电脑吗?就一分钟。 B:不介意——去吧。

What you could say back

“Not at all.”

Related phrases

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