Asking someone's salary

Informal Can sound rude

What it really means

Asking "How much do you earn?" is considered very private and usually impolite in Britain, even between friends. Money is one of the topics people avoid. If you're curious about pay in a job, ask generally: "What does that kind of job usually pay?"

Chinese explanation
在英国问别人"你赚多少钱"被认为非常隐私、通常很失礼,即使朋友之间也是。钱是大家回避的话题之一。想了解某行业薪水,可以泛泛地问:"这类工作一般薪水多少?"

Context, tips & common mistakes

Direct salary questions — 'what do you earn?' — are firmly off-limits in Britain, even between fairly good friends; money sits tangled with class and privacy in a way that makes the number feel more intimate than health or relationships. The taboo covers rent and house prices asked *personally* ('what did you pay?') while leaving the general versions ('rents around here are mad, aren't they?') completely open — talk about the market, never the person.

Accepted workarounds exist: people volunteer bands ('mid-thirties'), discuss 'market rate' for a role, or share openly with close friends by mutual consent. If someone asks you and you would rather not say, the deflection-with-humour is ready-made: 'not enough!' ends it with no offence in either direction. Note the culture is slowly shifting — salary transparency in job adverts is increasingly campaigned for — but at a dinner table the old rule holds.

Example conversation

A: I nearly asked my flatmate his salary yesterday. B: Careful — asking someone's salary here is seen as quite personal. Ask about the job in general instead.
A:我昨天差点问室友工资多少。 B:小心——在这里问别人工资是很私人的问题。可以改问那个行业大概的情况。

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